Keep Calm and Believe

You’ve got to believe in yourself. What does that mean exactly? Well, it means knowing that you are good enough, that you deserve to be happy, and that you are important. You are loved. Whether you feel it, whether you see it, or know it in your brain, you are loved.

If you don’t believe, well, there’s nothing much that will help. People will say what they will say to lift you up and it won’t go in because somewhere, it’s as if a door is closed, locked, bolted, shut. And you’re behind it somewhere….. Unreachable and unable to receive the love that will save your life.

“If the person is not prepared to do the work of change, you can be the greatest therapist in the world and you cannot do anything.” Ivor Browne

This quote hits home for me – it’s not only the work of change the person needs to be prepared to do, they have to know that they are worth the effort, both the therapist’s effort, but their own effort most of all. You are worth it, because you are here. That’s enough.

The world loses people all the time who have lost their core belief in themselves. That belief brings them through the bad times, it grows stronger through the good times. But if it’s unable to be found, there isn’t much we can do to strengthen it.

Dear Reader, embrace the ups and downs of life and know, whatever may come, you deserve to be happy and you are loved.


Dedicated to Tim

Abby WynneKeep Calm and Believe

Let it go

There has been a lot of controversy around this song from Disney’s movie, Frozen. Why? I think it’s because it’s empowering. Letting go of the past, not being the “perfect girl” anymore.

My 4 year old has been singing this non-stop around the house for the last few days so I thought I’d find the lyrics, and wow, it’s worth a read, and a listen. And the movie is fun too!

Namaste xAbby

“Let It Go”
Kristen Anderson-Lopez and Robert Lopez.

The snow glows white on the mountain tonight
Not a footprint to be seen
A kingdom of isolation,
And it looks like I’m the queen.

The wind is howling like this swirling storm inside
Couldn’t keep it in, heaven knows I tried

Don’t let them in, don’t let them see
Be the good girl you always have to be
Conceal, don’t feel, don’t let them know
Well, now they know

Let it go, let it go
Can’t hold it back anymore
Let it go, let it go
Turn away and slam the door

I don’t care
What they’re going to say
Let the storm rage on,
The cold never bothered me anyway

It’s funny how some distance
Makes everything seem small
And the fears that once controlled me
Can’t get to me at all

It’s time to see what I can do
To test the limits and break through
No right, no wrong, no rules for me
I’m free

Let it go, let it go
I am one with the wind and sky
Let it go, let it go
You’ll never see me cry

Here I stand
And here I’ll stay
Let the storm rage on

My power flurries through the air into the ground
My soul is spiraling in frozen fractals all around
And one thought crystallizes like an icy blast
I’m never going back,
The past is in the past

Let it go, let it go
And I’ll rise like the break of dawn
Let it go, let it go
That perfect girl is gone

Here I stand
In the light of day
Let the storm rage on,
The cold never bothered me anyway

Abby WynneLet it go

We see things as We are

We have trouble seeing ourselves as we really are. Our body image is skewed based on what we think we should be, what we think we would like to be, and what we are told we should be.

We see things as we are, rather than accept them as they are.

Usually we can’t achieve what we (think we) want, and we can’t do it fast enough either. If any of you set New years resolutions to lose weight and have broken them by now, giving up the game, you know what I am talking about. I hope you’re not taking it out on yourselves, the real answer is to love yourself more.

This video is worth watching. Here are woman who “achieve” the look of their dreams, only to discover it’s not actually what they thought it would be.

I’d love to know your thoughts, do leave some in the comments 


Abby WynneWe see things as We are

How To Take Your Power Back From Valentine’s Day.

I’m writing this because I’m a firm believer that if you love someone you should show them every day, not just one day a year. And if you don’t have someone to love in that romantic way, a “hallmark holiday” does not have to get in the way of your happiness.

It’s beautiful to honour love, maybe Valentine’s Day could be about just that, honouring love for love’s sake, rather than being about romantic love (and cash into the till). Anyone can do this exercise if they resonate with it, whether they are in a romantic relationship or not. Just like any exercise I would ask you to please read through it first so you know what to expect before you jump in! Read More

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Feck! I Reached 2 Million People on Facebook!

As most of you know, I’m a Dublin girl, born and bred. I’ve lived here all my life, and I guess that I take it for granted because it’s what I know.

I swear. A lot. Being in my position of therapist swearing isn’t something we are supposed to do, but it’s part of who I am. I read once somewhere that people who swear are more honest, I find I’m more honestly myself if I do swear from time to time. And yes, it does happen in session too, and I find it puts my client’s at ease all the more quickly if they know they are safe to swear too! Read More

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